Being soft and nice for yourself is a difficult thing to do for a lot of us, why we don't give ourseles the peace and the moment to relax from time to time.
In this case there are a lot of options why we don't do that. Mabey we work to hard or we just focus on other people, what they do and the way they act.
It is in ou nature to do this, let's be honest it is super easy to look at what others do than to look
what we do by ourselves. Which can resolute in fights and feelings of jealousy and so on, making us deep down unhappy and drained out of energy.

The beginning to come back to yourself is to go within what do you really feel and what do you really think . Because of al the emotions we can take over other people's feelings. You can be yourself and stay true to yourself, only what you need to do is to have faith in yourself.
Don't be hard for yourself and don;t push yourself this is only making you feel bad, you have a lot of time to do so give yourself that you don't have to be quick.

By this Archangel Raphael can help you to find it, he can surround you with a green bubble wich is taking energies away from others. If you find it difficult to do it by yourself.